I doubt it’s a strictly factual account, but these attitudes are deeply imbedded.Which means that our only hope of changing them, of ending the wrecks, lies not in stopping or even changing the Internet — even with the best blocking functions, report-abuse functions, real-name transparency protocols, and twenty-four-hour moderation in the world, hate (to quite Jurassic Park) finds a way — but in changing ourselves, and our definitions of womanhood. We have to stop believing that when a woman does something we don’t like, we are qualified and entitled to punish her, violate her, or ruin her life. We have to change our ideas of what a “good” woman, or a “likable” woman, or simply a “woman who can leave her house without fearing for her life because she is a woman,” can be.

I doubt it’s a strictly factual account, but these attitudes are deeply imbedded.Which means that our only hope of changing them, of ending the wrecks, lies not in stopping or even changing the Internet — even with the best blocking functions, report-abuse functions, real-name transparency protocols, and twenty-four-hour moderation in the world, hate (to quite Jurassic Park) finds a way — but in changing ourselves, and our definitions of womanhood. We have to stop believing that when a woman does something we don’t like, we are qualified and entitled to punish her, violate her, or ruin her life. We have to change our ideas of what a “good” woman, or a “likable” woman, or simply a “woman who can leave her house without fearing for her life because she is a woman,” can be.

– Sady Doyle –

Trainwreck: The Women We Love to Hate, Mock, and Fear… and Why

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