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Alexandra Katehakis

Nowhere is moral shortcoming more prevalent than in the intersection between our espoused morality and the way we engage romantic and sexual partners. In truth, how we function sexually is a microcosm of the way that we are in the world. We might ask ourselves, “Are we being selfish, considerate, or dismissive? Are we minimizing, compliant or controlling?” Sex is the ultimate laboratory where we can actually try out new ways of relating to ourselves and our lover, being conscious and mindful of how we impact another person. It takes great humility to open a genuine exploration of our lived–not just stated–morality. But to live by the dictates of our own internal compass brings equally great joy, serenity, and self-respect.

morality, sexuality

Alexandra Katehakis

We might feel that we must demonstrate explicitly when we’re upset, or not upset. This perceived need may stem from our family of origin, from how we learned to be heard when a simple “no” wasn’t enough. We may have learned to mask certain feelings, or portray feelings that weren’t ours. But as adults we each need to learn to state our personal truth without having to prove it or shout it.

demonstration, facade, family-of-origin, feelings, mask, personal-truth

Alexandra Katehakis

Are you repeating someone else’s narrative, taking it for granted? Talk therapy sessions and 12-step recovery shares help develop the ability to present a coherent life narrative through the safe structure of clear rules of communication that support healthy self-expression and self-awareness.

12-step, coherent-narrative, communication, narrative, self-awareness, self-expression, therapy

Alexandra Katehakis

Stand up for the underdog, the ‘loser.’ Sometimes having the strength to show loving support for unacknowledged others turns the tides of our own lives.

failure, loser, support, underdog

Alexandra Katehakis

How can you get through to yourself?

self-awareness, self-esteem, self-realization, self-talk, therapy

Alexandra Katehakis

Endow yourself with healthy self-esteem. What is the feeling tone in your life that radiates in you and makes you shine, that makes you feel whole, that makes you feel your heart? That feeling tone, which we long to hear from others, is the tone we want to practice with ourselves. That’s where we want to live with ourselves. It doesn’t happen from the outside in. That’s why it’s called self-esteem.

esteem, feel-whole, feel-your-heart, feeling-tone, self-esteem

Alexandra Katehakis

When loneliness is a constant state of being, it harkens back to a childhood wherein neglect and abandonment were the landscape of life.

abandonment, childhood, loneliness, neglect

Alexandra Katehakis

Intensity-seeking is an enslavement of our own perpetuation. When we step out of the delirium of always seeking someone new, and meet the same old sad and lonely child within, our healing journey begins. Exhausting ourselves with novelty is a defense against our deepest pain, one that we cannot outrun. But once we stop and feel our losses, we can begin our healing journey and be the authentic, joyous person we were born to be.

addiction, child-within, compulsivity, deepest-pain, defense, enslavement, healing-journey, inner-child, intensity, intensity-seeking, novelty, sex-addiction

Alexandra Katehakis

Our souls yearn for connection with all souls. There are people we think we prefer and others we don’t, but half the time that’s a lie: We tell ourselves the fairy tale of our hatreds out of fear, but we revisit that tale as it suits us. Deep down, we’d love to love and be loved by all.

connection, hatred, love, preference

Alexandra Katehakis

Sometimes it’s only in the ecstasy of unrepressed movement that we may enter the stillness of our authentic selves. In such sacred moments, the world seems to be in step. This is why the idea of finding love across the dance floor endure — symbolizing that, when we know the true rhythm of our heart, we know the other.

dance, dance-floor, finding-love, knowing-oneself, knowing-others, movement, rhythm

Alexandra Katehakis

There are marvelous sea creatures whose existences can be viewed only within the deep blue sea, and similarly we all have dear secrets that can be spoken only in the habitat of the heart.

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Alexandra Katehakis

Spiritualizing sex is actually a movement of energy—feeling and emotion—that rises within you and moves into your sexual physicality as an alive, tender, erotic, or passionate expression. Your bodies move without inhibition so all the energy can flow out of you and between the two of you. You allow spiritual energy to express its dance through you. Sexuality can be a profound demonstration of your love, and especially your freedom, to express and bond. Spiritual sex, then, combines how you express your love with the intentions or blessings you bring to your partnership.

blessing, emotion, erotic, intention, sexuality, spiritual-sex